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Have you been facing trouble trying to connect with your network lately?

Networking is a two-way street. When someone in your network asks, “What can I do for you?” What they really mean is “What can you do for me?” Networks build value on the mutual benefits its members can extend to each other. Without mutual benefit, there is little reason to carry on with this self-marketing strategy.

If it has been a long time since you connected with anyone in your network, there’s a possibility your network finds less value in networking with you – likely because you are networking with them.

So, how do you find out if you are a poor networker? Check out the following clues that might tell you that you should focus on your networking skills.

1. People in Your Network Never Return Your Calls

It happens quite often – you call someone in your network and get no response. You try calling their business number, and their assistant responds he/she will forward the message. But, do you receive a callback? NO! The person may be avoiding you.

2. People in Your Network Have Been “Busy”

You bump into a person at a networking event. Obviously, they can’t feign being unavailable while at the event, so they come up with the most commonly used excuse, “I’m so sorry for not returning your calls. I’m swamped at work since my promotion.” Sure, this happens. However, if it happens frequently, with many people in your network you should take this as a sign.

3. You No Longer Feel Inspired

None of your contacts seem enthusiastic or pumped up about anything, not even a potential business prospect. Are you to blame? Or, did people in your network collectively figure out that you don’t have much to offer?

4. People in Your Network Do Not Pay Attention

You’re at a business event, with your “network friends,” discussing an opportunity you may have. But, no one is interested. Client “A” was yawning, “C” and “D,” think it isn’t really that great, and “B” has constantly been eyeing another potential contact – red flags!

5. People in Your Network Make New Friends, but Don’t Introduce You

You are with your networking buddies, and they’re talking about this person they know, but you don’t. Why haven’t they introduced you to him? While not introducing you may have been an oversight, if they make no attempt, you might consider this a clue.

6. You Find It Difficult to Create Opportunities

You’ve activated several of your contacts in an attempt to find and create better prospects for growth and success for your business. But, you haven’t heard from them since. Should you be worried? Possibly. If you have not received a response, then your business ideas may not be considered a value to your network.

6.5 Go Ahead and Add Value to Your Network

Don’t wait for things to improve; immediately get to work. This may seem like a monumental task upfront, but you can break it down into three simple benchmarks.

  • Reach Out. Start giving. Try and help the people around you and in your network to lay stronger, more meaningful foundations for genuine relationships. Connect those people who can add value to each other’s professional lives.

  • Mentor. There will always be industry newbies looking for guidance. Take them under your wing and nurture them with your experience. This investment will pay off in the long run.

  • Make Valuable Contributions. Share your experience, pool of contacts, and knowledge. Become a central source of worthy contributions and see how that makes you valuable to others.


  1. Listen. The interview will likely start with your interviewer(s) describing the job, the company, and possibly the type of person they are looking for, corporate culture, or other facts. Listen attentively, sit up with straight but non-threatening posture, and remain silent until you are invited to speak or it is obviously time to say something. Beyond obtaining potentially valuable data that can help you frame your comments and answers, this also demonstrates you are a good listener, a prized corporate skill that is all too rare in today’s world where people announce their lunch menu on Twitter.
  2. Speak. You should do most of the talking. The interview is about you explaining and proving why you are the best person for the job. Answer questions directly and honestly, and use anecdotes that illustrate your qualifications whenever possible. Describing how you led a sales team to double its revenues is much more impressive than saying you’re a good sales manager. Also use your research here – you may want to mention you helped another company overcome a challenge similar to the one the company currently faces – and be sure to have a few specific questions ready. The questions should revolve around specific tasks and responsibilities you will have, advancement potential, and other work-related subjects – not vacation and sick time!


  1. Follow Up. As soon as you get back home from the interview, write a short, polite note (NOT an email or even worse, text message) thanking your interviewer for taking the time to speak with you and mentioning one or two specific reasons you are perfect for the job that relate to topics of conversation during the interview. You will look professional and thorough, and a signed note really stands out in the age of instant electronic communication.


6.5Stay Positive. Even if you do your very best at a job interview, you may not get the position. Someone else may simply have better qualifications or experience, or have an inside connection. You must stay positive. Review the interview, correct any flaws or missteps that may have occurred, and put it out of your mind at the next interview. If you truly commit yourself to acing every job interview you get, you should find a fulfilling work position sooner rather than later.

Got 10 seconds? Feed your mind this nutritious thought and experience the exponential growth.

Tuesday Thought

Got 10 seconds? Feed your mind this nutritious thought and experience the exponential growth.

Got 10 seconds? Feed your mind this nutritious thought and experience the exponential growth.


  1. Freshen Your Image. Another phrase that is overstated but contains a lot of wisdom is “image is everything.” Look in the mirror. Is your hair neatly cut in a current style, are you well-groomed with trimmed fingernails, white teeth and fresh breath? Is your posture straight with square shoulders? Is your clothing good quality with a proper fit? Are your shoes freshly shined? Do you carry a leather briefcase and hand out professionally produced resumes and business cards? If the answer to any of these questions is “no,” do what it takes to change it to “yes,” pronto! Employers will decide whether or not they want to hire you within the first 30 seconds of the interview. Everything else will get you the interview, but the image you present as soon as you walk in the office will be the determining factor in whether you get the job.
  2. Freshen Your Health. Unemployment can be spiritually crushing. It can decimate your physical and mental well-being. Don’t let it. If you are not operating from a place of health, you will not have the intense energy, focus and vigor needed to support the fresh search for meaningful employment. Make sure you go to bed and wake up at a reasonable hour, exercise daily, avoid tobacco and narcotics and if you choose to drink alcohol, do so in moderation. Also eat well and stay mentally stimulated. Read a book instead of watching TV or surfing the Internet. Unemployment can lead to potentially stultifying “down time,” don’t let it get you down!
  3. Freshen Your Approach. It’s hard to see and hear yourself as others see and hear you, and it’s very rare to get honest feedback on your interview performance from a prospective employer. Therefore, it’s up to you to freshen your interview performance. Conduct a mock interview with yourself, dressing up as you would for a job interview, entering a room and sitting down as you would in an interview, and then answering a series of commonly asked questions. Use any one of the numerous digital devices that lets you make a video of yourself these days, and critically watch the results. Also have a trusted friend or professional contact conduct a mock interview and then give you honest, constructive feedback. An acquaintance who has your best interests at heart may be a better choice than a friend, who might be inclined to “spare your feelings.”

6.5 Freshen Your Outlook. Above all, stay positive in your day-to-day outlook. Looking for a job is tough and dispiriting work, and even the most determined job-seeker will have bad days where they may not follow all the fresh steps. But by making the effort to keep a fresh outlook, you will survive the occasional bad day and stay on track to end unemployment and find the job of your dreams.


Got 10 seconds? Feed your mind this nutritious thought and experience the exponential growth.

Got 10 seconds? Feed your mind this nutritious thought and experience the exponential growth.



Omit the Negative from Your Life and Career and feel the difference


To test how effectively you maintain brand health by omitting negativity, rate how strongly you agree that each of the following fresh statements applies to you today from 1-5, with 1 equaling strongly disagree and 5 equaling strongly agree. For this particular test, the lower the score, the better!


How Healthy Is Your Response to Negativity?

1. I find myself spending a lot of time worrying about negative things that were said about me.

2. I internalize 40% or more of the negative feedback that people say about me.

3. If you want to stop me dead in my tracks, just give me negative feedback.

4. I learn very little from negative feedback.

5. I don’t know how to extract the positive out of negative feedback and use it to strengthen myself.

6. I often times elect to do something fun and pleasurable even when I know I should be working on something that will bring me a greater degree of success.

6.5. I crumble very easily under pressure.


Now that you’ve taken the test, let’s analyze your openness to negativity:

If you scored from 29 to 35, you are wide open. You are extremely sensitive to the opinions and judgments of others and are constantly second-guessing yourself for fear of doing something that will bring criticism. As long as you carry this self-defeating attitude, you will not be able to build a successful brand or achieve your aspirations. You need to start strengthening your resolve and following the steps to omitting negativity before you find your career on life support.

If you scored from 21 to 28, you are mostly open. You are not completely dominated by negativity in the way a wide open colleague is, and probably function in a fairly positive manner if you are not facing any outright negativity. But once negative people and influences appear, you quickly come under their sway. Negativity instinctively senses and pursues its most vulnerable targets, so you probably encounter it often.

If you scored from 14 to 20, you are halfway open. You have managed to remove yourself from the run-of-the-mill negativity that most of us encounter on a regular basis. You do not allow yourself to become snared or distracted by offhand comments and petty political maneuverings. serious negativity, the type that damages lives and ruins careers if left unchecked, can still find you. You have taken some good first steps, but do not assume you are now safe. You still have plenty of work to do.

If you scored from 9 to 13, you are slightly open. You are just barely open, making it extremely difficult for negativity to get through. But negativity can still force its way into your life by a determined adversary, indicating that you find it hard to resist occasionally glimpsing at negativity and letting it invade your thoughts. Like most things that are bad for us, negativity holds a peculiar attraction. Resist it – there are much better ways to spend your precious spare time than focusing on negativity!

If you scored a 7 or 8, you are completely closed, meaning you’re truly omitting negativity from your life and career. You have erected complete defenses against negativity and are impenetrable to the intrusion of negativity, unless you choose to open yourself to it. The lack of any type of involuntary openness indicates that you have learned to ignore the dangerous allure of negativity and instead put it completely out of your life. You have truly omitted negativity, bringing you one major step closer to building the best possible brand and achieving all of your aspirations.



Got 10 seconds? Feed your mind this nutritious thought and experience the exponential growth.